Monday, April 29, 2013

"There Must Be More Than This Provincial Life"



I'm glad that John knows that me bursting out with "THERE MUST BE MORE THAN THIS PROVINCIAL LIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIFE" during breakfast preparations has nothing to do with the life we have built together, but the fact that Disney songs run through my head 24 hours a day and sometimes escape.


Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Open

What would possess me to blurt out "I felt like I was drowning" when describing a personal situation to a room full of people that I barely know?

My desire for real relationships. The realization that if someone doesn't take the first steps to openness and truth, nobody can move forward.

I believe our society is STARVING for real relationships of significance and authenticity. But we care too much about what others think.  So we let ourselves keep starving and keep drowning.

So in the spirit of all of this, I would like to share something.

There was a point in my first marriage that my ex husband and I sought counseling.  We desperately needed it.  I told three people very close to me about it.  I didn't tell anyone else, because I was afraid of what people would think.  Of the three people I told, I got "good for you" from two of them and an uncomfortable "Oh. I wouldn't tell people that if I were you." from the last.

At first this bothered me and I felt that it confirmed my fears of judgment. Then I had the amazing thought of "NO! This is why there is such a stigma surrounding therapy and it is why people would rather divorce or live in absolute misery instead of seeking help.  This is why people hurt themselves or others instead of getting help."

I then made the decision to be the loudest proponent of therapy that ever was. So if you have not heard me say it before, here it is. GET HELP. I think most people would benefit from therapy.  Therapy is not just for people in desperate situations.  It is for people who could use some help working through things, and doesn't that apply to all of us?

Does therapy fix all of your problems?  No.  I mean, my first marriage still ended in divorce, but I got so many excellent tools that helped me grow as a person, helped the divorce process go more smoothly, and also helped me when my second marriage came around.  I could also say with certainty that I had worked hard and tried everything.  It ended up being invaluable time and effort and expense put in.

If you don't want to tell anyone about going to therapy, you do not have to.  The fact that I am so vocal about it does not mean that is what you need to do.  If privacy is what will get you there, then keep it private!

If cost is what is keeping you from going:

Contact your doctor
A religious organization
Local college
See if your city offers 211, which you can call for information on services available near you.
Google "Crisis hotline" with the name of your city.




Monday, April 15, 2013

What Would Mr. Rogers Say About The Boston Bombings?

Right below "What does Jesus say?" in my mind is "What would Mr. Rogers say?"  I love Mr. Rogers to this day.  His kindness, his love.  His gentle way of explaining and comforting.

I found this quote today and wanted to share it, and then ask a question and get some feedback.  I could use the advice.


"If you grew up with our Neighborhood, you may remember how we sometimes talked about difficult things. There were days ... even beautiful days ... that weren't happy. In fact, there were some that were really sad.

Well, we've had a lot of days like that in our whole world. We've seen what some people do when they don't know anything else to do with their anger.

I'm convinced that when we help our children find healthy ways of dealing with their feelings--ways that don't hurt them or anyone else--we're helping to make our world a safer, better place.

I would like to tell you what I often told you when you were much younger: I like you just the way you are.

And what's more, I'm so grateful to you for helping the children in your life to know that you'll do everything you can to keep them safe and to help them express their feelings in ways that will bring healing in many different neighborhoods."

So here is my question: how do you teach your kids to handle and express their anger in the right way?  This is something I have yet to master.

And a last thought: hold your little ones tight.  Tell them you love them.  Include them in your prayers for those affected by the bombs in Boston, and for those still working to protect us.


Saturday, April 13, 2013

Starting relationships...

What would our relationships look like if we started them not worried about impressing the other person, but loving them and getting to know them?

That's something for me to chew on today.

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Perils Of Pinterest #1

So, I saw several different pins recently about how to keep bananas fresh longer.  This is great because my family's banana consumption habits are truly irritating.  We are either always completely out of bananas, or we have too many and they turn brown and gooey and are inedible.  So when I saw the pins saying that the refrigerator was the way to go in keeping them fresher, longer, I thought 'SCORE'.  Here's how my beautiful bananas looked just two days later.


FAIL!


Monday, April 8, 2013

How Swagbucks Earned Me A Free Kindle Fire HD


So, I started Swagbucks in December 2012 and posted about it here.  Then in March, my ABSOLUTELY FREE Kindle Fire HD arrived.  We love it.  We read and play and surf the web on it.  I'd even taken the month of February off from Swagging, and still earned enough to get the Kindle.  

There are so many prizes to choose from- gift cards to places like Amazon, Starbucks, Walmart and actual items like beauty products, electronics.  You can even donate to charity!

The main ways I earn via Swagbucks are searching the web (I already did this, why not earn money while I do it?), answering short surveys and running SBTV on my iPhone (these are movie previews).  I also go through Swagbucks and see if something I am already going to purchase online earns me SB if I click through.  Walmart, Target and other popular stores give swag bucks as rewards, equivalent to cash back.

I did not purchase the Kindle Fire HD through the swag rewards store, but purchased Amazon gift cards in $5 and larger increments.  This gave me quite a savings over purchasing it from the swag rewards store.

Sign up for Swagbucks here and start earning your favorite rewards today!

This is not a sponsored post, I did not receive anything from either Amazon or Swagbucks in exchange for posting this.  

Friday, April 5, 2013

Knowing Me, Knowing You

That 'About Me' section is pretty small.  So I thought I would share random factoids with you about me because...I want to.  If I have my druthers, you will comment back with your blog or something you want to share.  So, today's fact about me is:

I know I seem like an incredibly mature and cultured (and humble) lady, but I play video games.  More than that, I like to troll the GameFaqs forums when I have done something fantastic in my online gaming and post things like:

U MAD, BRO?

and

You got SCHOOLED by a 30 year old mom!


Hopefully you will still read my blog and find me amazingly together and fabulous.  Or not.  But still read the blog.  :)

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Teenagers


 



I used to be a teenager.  I work with teenagers and spend a lot of time with them.  I read a lot about teenagers.

I need to add my perspective to what I keep reading and hearing about teenagers.

Here it is- they have so much potential.  The world is quite literally at their fingertips.  But they need your perspective about teenagers to change and they need your good influence.

The teenagers I know are smart and passionate and world changers.  Because people with the right perspective and influence stepped in and helped mold them to be that way.

I remember how people treated me when they thought I was making every mistake in the book.  I remember that the people who treated me like I was a worthwhile human being with a purpose were the ones that made me want to be that person.

The ones who criticized without offering anything constructive, or talked about 'kids these days' without teaching me were the ones who made me feel defeated.

So what if we treated ALL kids and teens with the encouragement that they could be world changers?

Maybe they would be.

Teenagers need someone to encourage and inspire them.  Will it be you?